Myths are fun, entertaining and can even be educational. One of my family’s favorite TV shows is all about different myths. From sports to science, health to history, myths and misconceptions find their way into every area of our daily lives. And that includes parenting.
My husband, Morio, and I consider ourselves Christian parents. So this must mean we have it all together, right? Well, no. Just because we are Christian parents does NOT mean we, “have it all together.” Truth is we make lots of mistakes like anyone else. So in the spirit of myth busting my family and I came up with this list of Christian Family Myths. Enjoy!
Myth # 1: Our children MUST be our first priority.
This myth is basically saying that a child centered family is a happy and successful family. This family puts more importance on giving the child attention than the spouse; always giving priority to the kids with the belief that the more attention I give my child the better he/she will turn out as an adult.
Busted: This myth is a dangerous one! It will weaken and destroy a home. The Bible tells us that our spouse is the priority, second only to God. (Eph. 5:28; Gen. 2:24; Eph. 5:31).
Myth # 2: I should rely on the church to teach the Bible to my children.
This myth leaves you believing that you can easily pass the buck of your responsibility to nurture your child in a spiritual relationship with Christ.
Busted: I am a children’s pastor and by no means am I belittling the importance of a strong children’s ministry that partners with parents. The key is the partnership. Think of it this way, who has more time with your child? Kids Church or you? Now ask yourself this, will a lesson taught in an hour stick with your child better than your daily example and guidance? (Deut. 6:4-9; Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21).
Myth # 3: My children belong to ME.
This myth leads you to believe that your children are your property, and you have the right to do whatever you want with and to them.
Busted: I have six children, and I believe each one is a beautiful gift from God. Psalm 127:3 says, “Behold, children are a gift from the Lord.” Parenting is really being a steward of a precious life that God has placed in your care. God gives us our children to love, care for and give instruction, to name a few things.
Myth # 4: Quality time with my children is more important than quantity time.”
This myth will ease a parent’s guilt for spending too little time with their kids.
Busted: In Deuteronomy 6:6-7, God instructs parents on how to be a parent and teach our children about Him and His laws. It says, “These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.”
So, basically, we are supposed to teach our kiddos all the time. It is a mistake to think we can somehow schedule those teachable moments into a few scattered, “quality” interactions between dinner and dessert. As you make yourself more available to your kids, you’ll begin to see how many unplanned opportunities arise out of those times of sitting, walking, and even driving in the car.
These are just a few of the myths/misconceptions that we all have to face in parenting. As parents we have a huge responsibility that has been given to us by God. Therefore, it only makes sense to look to God’s Word and seek His truth rather than looking to the opinions of the world to shape our parental decisions.
Praying for your family,
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