Tuesday of this week marked 26 remarkable, crazy and unbelievable years of marriage for me and Sandy. God has blessed beyond our comprehension. But what helped us make it this far? How do couples last like this?
People ask us questions like that all the time … well, not all the time, but on a pretty regular basis. Anyway, the short answer is that I don’t exactly know. I don’t believe in luck OF ANY KIND; saying that just steals the credit from God. All I know is that is it not because of me.
Sandy and I were high school sweethearts, and we married the summer of 1988 not long after graduation. We moved to Columbia that fall to attend Mizzou and had our firstborn, Corey, that winter. Both of us being the youngest in large Catholic farm families, we were the deadly combination of young, stubborn, immature and proud. We were babies raising babies, so to speak.
So, how did that work out so well? That’s easy – GOD. Once in college, we pretty much forgot about Him. We studied hard, worked harder, and loved and fought each other with gladiator intensity. But then God started whispering to our hearts … “I’m still here.” “You need me.” And we certainly did.
After reconnecting with God in a new and real way, our lives, our marriage and our family began to change in fundamental ways – what we watched, what we drank and what we did. We slowly weeded out junk that clouded our life and infected our relationship. As Sandy and I each grew individually in faith, our relationship and love for each other grew stronger.
Our marriage verse is Ecclesiastes 4:12, “Though one can be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” We have made it because God was first in our home; He was interwoven into our cord of three strands. My prayer for every home is that you hear God’s invitation and that you welcome Him into your life and marriage in a new and real way. That is how you make it.
I’m really looking forward to the next 26, and I say yes to all that means every day.
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